by Scarlet Gabriel | Aug 1, 2021 | Monthly Themes - SG HQ, Personal Development
August Accountability
Here in the Scarlet Gabriel Team, we are focusing on accountability this August and, therefore, we have highlighted this month as Accountability August in our calendars.
Being accountable for one’s actions means to truly own your life. You alone are responsible for your actions and reactions and you have it within you to achieve your goals and dreams.
However, even though we can look at ourselves as the CEO’s of our own lives, we are not alone in this beautiful journey of life. We are surrounded by people that love and care for us, whether they be lovers, colleagues, family, friends etc.
Therefore, teamwork is still dreamwork, so why don’t you get your dream team involved in helping you fulfill your dreams. Asking for help and support is not always a sign of ‘weakness’, but rather a sign of strength.
So let your friends, family or colleagues assist you in accomplishing your goals. Allow them to hold you accountable too. Meaning, allow them to encourage you along the way and to remind you of your goals and dreams and let them offer assistance and support.
There is strength in numbers and Adding, Allowing and Accepting Accountability assistance can create the A Team in your life.
As a performer, I cannot create an amazing spectacle alone, of course if I sing solo, but I can’t harmonise with myself, and having lighting, sound, a stage manager, a costume designer etc means a more varied experience. It also means that I can just focus on 1 thing – Being the best performer I can be.
What would you be if you had an amazing team to support you?
… Teamwork really does make the dreamwork, If you want me on your team to support your performance or personal development or if you just want to expand on anything in this blog “DM me“ …
Love Scarlet xx
by Scarlet Gabriel | Jul 25, 2021 | Case Studies, Personal Development, Uncategorised, Wellbeing
I met Laura at a business course, she’s 24 and is contemplating starting her own business. As the day goes on, I can see her feeling more and more intimidated by the confident characters around her. I feel as though she will not return after lunch, she will use the break as an escape and slide back into the darkness of the ‘complicated’ routine she calls life. She is the type of lady who is the life and soul of the party and has loads of friends, she’s amazing, when she’s there, but she’s not there, she’s here…
At lunch we go to the local restaurant, I go through my ‘Star of Life’ activity with her to gage the areas of her life she feels cause her most difficulty.
I observe her star, many low scores, I process the results in my head and say “ok we don’t have long left, so, from everything you’ve said, I think we need to delve into you relationship side, as once you feel better about that, all of the other things on your list will start to rise by default.”
She agrees and we spend the remaining 15 minutes and the walk back to the course discussing her relationships in more detail.
The feedback:
“It was great, you can really break down what others can’t see! I knew all of this stuff, but it was too much in my head. Therefore, the way that you break it down is amazing!! Thank you!! I feel more positive, like I shouldn’t get overwhelmed, you understand me and help me reflect… About all the relationship stuff, it made me realise that if something’s not making you happy, it’s like gone off milk. So open the lid, pour it down the sink. It put things into perspective for me and I need to focus on what makes me happy. I’m totally over him. It may sound crazy, but I’m like that. When I make up my mind, it’s made. When you’re trying to be positive, you don’t need the negative. Today is the start of my life.
by Scarlet Gabriel | Jul 18, 2021 | Case Studies, Past Life Skills Workshops, Uncategorised, Wellbeing, Youth empowenment / CAM London
Jemma, 19, lives in supported housing in a deprived London Borough. She was kicked out of school at an early age for ‘attacking’ a teacher. At 17 she enrolled into college, but later was deregistered; she preferred to spend time with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is a cocaine dealer and is mentally and physically abusive to Jemma. Jemma drinks a bottle of vodka to herself a few times a week. Last week she was taken to hospital to have her stomach pumped, she stopped breathing while they attended to her. They were able to revive her. Jemma was referred to us by her Housing Manager in 2013. She took up the 1-2-1 Personal Coaching Course
Social issues identified:
- Domestic violence
- Low self esteem
- Lack of confidence
- Binge drinking
- Low education
- No motivation
- Bad influence from peers
The Sessions
- By the end of Session 1 Jemma felt embarrassed, upset, angry, disappointed and was keen to change her current path. She agreed to commit to the project
- By session 3 Jemma was more confident and showed genuine understanding of how, why and when she had gone ‘wrong’ in the past, she took ownership
- By session 4 Jemma had re-enrolled into college, she revealed an ambition that she never believed could come true; we showed her steps towards making that dream a reality…
- By session 7 we had a relapse, the ex-boyfriend was back in contact. Jemma was confused but still determined, so we looked at the positive steps she could take to prevent him getting in touch with her.
- By session 9 Jemma was back on track, she gained 81% in a mock exam after spending most of her time revising as opposed to drinking
- By the end of the 12-week program, Jemma was more confident, had a more positive outlook, was applying for an apprenticeship, was happy working on building herself up and not wanting another relationship until she was ready….
Course Feedback
We asked Jemma’s caseworker how she felt Jemma had improved in the following:
- Self Improvement: “Jemma has now improved how she dresses, keeps her flat clean, and makes positive plans for the future”
- Personal Development: ” Jemma has now completed three courses and been offered a job, she also started college for level 3 childcare.”
- Happiness: Jemma seems happy in herself despite a small setback with ex-boyfriend, she has taken him to court and has taken an injunction out on him. She has now met a new boyfriend and is happy, he treats her well.”
- Confidence: “Jemma’s confidence has improved and she is much more outgoing and has now become an ambassador for the housing project, she meets and greets the new customers that are moving in.”
-
“The moment she realised that what she did was wrong was brilliant, you could see the realisation on her face, after all those years she could finally see it” – Jemma’s Caseworker “
“What have you done to her? Every time she comes out of a session with you she’s so happy, skipping along the corridors, I’ve never seen her like that before” – Housing Project Manager
“Thank you for everything, I couldn’t have done it without you, I feel so much better now, I feel so dumb for it but, at least I can move on… I just want to make my mum proud” – Jemma
“I am super proud of Jemma, she made masses of improvement, I’ll never forget when she walked in and said she’d enrolled in college, I was so shocked but so happy for her, that threw my lesson plan right out of the window! She’s a good girl with a good heart who just allowed herself to fall off the rails, as with many young people, once you show them their choices, they tend to make the right one” – Scarlet Gabriel, Coach
At Scarlet Workshops, we aim to engage, challenge, entertain and provoke a fundamental reassessment of our tolerance and acceptance of things that harm us and stunt our personal growth. We explore positive relationships and effective communication as well as pointing out the importance of making the right choices and taking control of your own life.
Where is she now (2014):
- Jemma is no longer in supported housing and lives in her flat.
- Jemma is working and happy.
- Jemma scheduled a meeting with Scarlet as she felt she needed a little boost
- Jemma and Scarlet still catch up every now and then
by Scarlet Gabriel | Jul 11, 2021 | Learning and education, Money Coach, Past Life Skills Workshops, Personal Development, Uncategorised, Youth empowenment / CAM London
Not so boring budgeting
As part of a 4-month bespoke course, I decided that budgeting was something that definitely needed to be included. Through our 1-2-1 sessions 90% of the young people mentioned they are either bad at managing their money or would like some extra assistance. Most people were happy to come in and get started, but Tom, 23, needed a bit more convincing:
Tom: “I don’t want to do budgeting, I’ve done it so many times man, I don’t get it, it’s boring”
Scarlet: “have you ever done budgeting with me though?… ok then, in you come and let me know how you feel afterwards”
The session was compiled of a step-by-step guide to understanding our relationship and the uses of money before we even looked at the budgeting aspect.
Key works were used, broken down, explained.
Worksheets were completed as a group, in pairs, as individuals and from discussions we’ve had.
When the session ended 2 hours later, Tom asked if he could stay behind.
We then went through his personal budget as he didn’t want to do it in front of everyone. We pointed out that his outgoings were exceeding his income and he already had two debts to pay off. I explained how easy it is to get into debt in a situation like his, where he spends more than he earns. He agreed.
We then looked at his expenses one by one and questioned if he could reduce them in any way. We found a few items that he could live without or cut back on and we made a note of the savings.
Tom: ” I didn’t realise that I spent that much, yeah I need to cut back on a lot of things”
Scarlet: “Budgeting’s not so bad after all eh (with smug face intact) “
Tom: “Whatever (laughs)… thanks miss”
Recent Comments